Dating After Divorce

The title says it all…dating after divorce. It sucks. It doesn’t happen. Sure there is the occasional dinner with a friend but that is where the line is drawn. My Pastor once told me in the beginning of my divorce that I should wait at least a year before dating. I kinda thought….”um yeh ok.” Not that I wanted to rush out and find the next prince charming but I really thought that I did not need to work on myself much. Boy was I wrong. Jesus is my constant reminder that I have a whole heap of things to work on…..Preston’s dad also helps pointing those things out too.

I totally used to get annoyed by James saying things like “Your mean” or “You could have more tact when you say things” or “all you think about is yourself”. He is right though. I can be mean. I can say things without thinking and sound completely rude without meaning too. And I am pretty selfish. Who wants to admit not so charming characteristics about themselves? Duh..no one. But facts are facts and if I am going to strive to be a better person and walk with the lord then I surely need to get it together.

I know that some day when the time is right the lord is going to send Preston and I a mighty man of God. A man who lives and believes the word of God. A mighty man of god who will pray with me through the good and bad. A mighty man of god who has big strong arms to give great hugs. A mighty man of god with a huge heart to love more than one because let’s face it…we are a package deal. A mighty man of God that has a great smile….that’s just because I like good oral hygiene…no spiritual or emotional meaning behind it. I know that Jesus listens when I pray and he knows what I ask for and someone, somewhere is eventually going to come in and sweep us off our feet.

There is one thing I will stand firm on…ok two actually. One…KIDS DON’T DATE!! Until that mighty man of God comes our way Jesus Christ is the only man in our house. There will be no revolving door of men. (icky) and no “look mommy has a new friend!.” Until that man comes…it’s just me and Preston. And I forgot to mention that the mighty man of God must have patience because he will have to wait a long while before he ever meets my son.

The second…Preston already has a mommy and a papa and a pretty amazing set at that. I would never want Preston to have the impression that a new man is in and trying to take his dads place. Preston and his dad have an amazing special bond of their own just like Preston and I do. No matter what, Preston comes first and always will.

P.S, Dear Jesus,
Can you make sure my mighty man of God you picked out for me gives back rubs and foot rubs? I would totally appreciate it. Thanks. Amen.